To my best friend that feels like family-
As cliché as it sounds, life truly does go by so fast; I blink and realize it’s been months since I have seen you. I never mean for it to happen, it just does.
I miss you.
I need you to know something, you’re still just as important to me as you ever were before—maybe even more so.
Our friendship has stood the test of time, weddings, children, losses, heartbreak, crisis, life-altering decisions and ever-changing distance. Though we didn’t become friends until we were technically adults, we have grown up together.
With all the craziness of life and the driving distance between us, going spans of time without seeing each other is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to mean we aren’t still close.
It doesn’t mean you wouldn’t be here in the blink of an eye if I needed you.
It doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t jump in the car at 2am if you asked me to.
It doesn’t mean that our friendship dies out.
It just means that when we do see each other, we have many things to catch up on.
It means going on long drives to talk, chatting while cooking dinner or watching the kids play at the park, and staying up way too late laughing and drinking wine. It means never sitting in silence. It means being intentional and fully enjoying the time we do get and making every second count –like the multitasking queens that we are.
But ugh, I wish time was easier to catch and hold onto.
Sometimes I worry that we will end up drifting so far apart that our friendship will fizzle out, but the truth is that to me, you’re family.
My kids truly believe you’re blood related to us. Family sticks together and works things out. I don’t ever give up on my family and neither do you. This makes me confident that no matter what comes our way, our relationship will stay intact.
You have taught me what it means to simply BE THERE for someone, both physically and virtually.
Even if there is no “right thing” to say or do, just being there is the key; just being there means everything. I have learned how important it is for me to be that kind of person because you’ve been that kind of person for me.
You have been an incredible constant in my life, you have always, always been there for me during the celebrations and the grief. I have learned so much about how to be a good friend from you; I want to be like you when I grow up.
Everyone gets lonely sometimes, but it helps to know that you have someone in your life whom you can continuously depend on.
We are meant to need other people, it’s how we were created. It is a blessing to have many friendships, but we all need that one friendship that is “more”.
We all need a friendship that has grown over time, a friendship that goes deeper because we have walked through the nitty gritty of life together and skipped out on the other side. We all need a friendship that is the product of hard work and time. We all need someone who has seen us at our ugliest but hasn’t run away.
We all need someone with whom we can share our deepest secrets and insecurities, someone with whom we can share absolutely everything.
Not to mention someone to call us out on our crap, slap some sense into us, and tell us when we are making bad and/or stupid decisions.
I am sorry if it seems like I haven’t made our friendship a priority lately and that I haven’t taken the time to come see you as often as I should.
I hope you know that it is not because I don’t care and it is not because I don’t want to; I really, really want to.
Your friendship is priceless to me and I cannot adequately express how much you mean to me.
It is the ultimate comfort to know that I always have someone who will be there for me in any phase of life, someone who knows me so well that I don’t have to do any extra explaining when I share what is going on, someone who just understands all of it without judgement.
Someone who will do me the honor of being that person for them, too– and call me out when I am not doing a very good job at it.
Seriously, I miss you and we need to get something planned soon. We need to set a date and put it on the calendar in ink. Better yet, we need a calendar made of stone, do you think Amazon sells them? Where can I find a chisel?
Bottom line? I don’t know what I would do without your friendship– I don’t even want to imagine it.
No matter how long it has been since we were in the same room together, no matter how busy, crazy or messy life gets, you are my family and I love you.
(Also, did I mention that I miss you?)
Cross my heart and hope to die, stick a needle in my eye, this is the truth!
You are and always will be, my best friend.