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Someone F*cking Changed the Classic “Alphabet Song,” and It’s So Bad, I Can’t Even Read Anymore
The “Alphabet Song,” otherwise known as the “ABC Song,” is a classic dating back to the 1830s. It’s one of the first musical numbers children ever learn. It’s also one in which nearly every toddler — mine included — adorably stumbles through the quick-paced “L-M-N-O-P” section, often heard as some variation of “elemenopee.”
But to some, that five-letter sequence is infamous, and they’re set on adjusting the song to better clarify those individual sounds for young learners.
Dream English — a children’s English-teaching website that aims to “make educational music that is not only filled with important phrases and grammar, but is enjoyable to listen to” — debuted an updated version of the song back in 2012. But the change didn’t take hold in popular culture until this week, when angry Twitter users shared their outrage upon discovering it.
I think we should play it on air and discuss our reactions to the new version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOPCkVmNaBU&feature=youtu.be
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Reporter Diagnosed With Breast Cancer After Live-Streaming Her First Mammogram
Section Intro:A year ago, at the age of 40, local Oklahoma City news reporter Ali Meyer decided to live-stream her first ever mammogram on Facebook. The mother-of-four and Emmy-award winning journalist’s greatest hope was to raise breast cancer awareness with her followers, encouraging them to schedule their own screenings. What she didn’t realize was that she would be sharing her breast cancer diagnosis with all of them.
A year ago, at the age of 40, local Oklahoma City news reporter Ali Meyer decided to live-stream her first ever mammogram on Facebook. The mother-of-four and Emmy-award winning journalist’s greatest hope was to raise breast cancer awareness with her followers, encouraging them to schedule their own screenings. What she didn’t realize was that she would be sharing her breast cancer diagnosis with all of them.
Meyer’s radiologist, Dr. Richard Falk, discovered cancerous calcifications in her right breast. They turned out to be non-invasive ductal breast cancer — a very early stage of cancer that is easily treated. Doctors also conducted genetic testing, which showed that she didn’t have any genetic mutations such as BRCA. “I wish I could say that made it a little easier, but it just didn’t. I was crushed,” she revealed.
“I will never forget that day. I will never forget telling my husband and my girls after they got off the bus that afternoon,” she continued. “Then, I decided to share my diagnosis on Facebook.
Despite the fact that non-invasive ductal breast cancer (DCIS) is one of the most survivable forms of breast cancer, there was a catch: After interviewing multiple surgeons, she realized that she needed to remove her entire right breast to get all the cancer. “I was devastated about that recommendation,” she says.
Ali maintains that getting a mammogram when she did saved her life. “My surgical options, my recovery and my outcome were all better because my mammogram found the cancer before I even knew it was there,” she said.
Ever since her diagnosis, she has been documenting her journey on social media. It is all sorts of informative, inspiring, and motivating.
Love and Marriage
Is my house haunted? Paranormal investigator’s 5 signs you have a ghost
[Tiffany] Section Intro: Curious as to whether you have any revenant roommates? Here are the signs you’re not alone at night.
The team spoke to 10 divorce lawyers and mediators and two judges in order to determine the main reasons why relationships may be likely to fail, before interviewing a cohort of couples.
They then interviewed 43 couples who’d either been married for 10 years or had been separated within that time and 10 same-sex and opposite-sex couples who’d either been cohabitating, married or in a civil partnership for 15 years.
Your belongings move or go missing
Keys and jewelry are easily overlooked when people are tired or in a rush, but if an item moves locations (behind your back or, hmmm…right in front of you) and you know for certain where you left it, you might have a ghost. “We call these spirits ‘tricksters,’” Heinzen tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “They’re not malevolent —they’re just mischievous.”
The objects eventually resurface, says Heinzen, but entities get a kick out of watching people frantically search for them. Spirits are usually attached to their homes and — just like you— feel entitled to stay, he says. As long as no one is getting physically hurt, he advises tolerating the ghosts, who are expressing themselves as they might during life. If you had a playful personality while alive, you’ll be equally as impish after death.
Heinzen regards his own spirits as he would slightly irritating roommates – with a bit of acknowledgment, even a verbal hello, then some distance. On one occasion, a spirit threw a spatula into a corner of the kitchen and they have been known to frequently slam doors — but Heinzen is unfazed.
“At night, we stay on one side of the farmhouse,” he explains. “We’re not scared, but we give the ghosts their space.”
Cory Heinzen and his wife Jennifer, pictured with their son Kyler and daughter Madison, bought the haunted Rhode Island home that inspired the film “The Conjuring.” (Photo: Katie Heinzen)
A child in the house seems to have identified a spirit
Kids are creative, but if a child in your home appears to be communicating with someone (and you’ve ruled out an imaginary friend), a ghost may be trying to connect. Heinzen says young children are susceptible to the spiritual because of their anything-is-possible mindset.
When children are involved in an investigation, Heinzen partners with a psychic-medium, which is a person with the ability to predict the past, present and future, plus tap into past lives and communicate with the deceased.
According to Los Angeles-based psychic-medium Chris Medina, the interaction between a ghost and a child looks a lot like one in life. “A ghost may communicate with a child by singing or sharing their name and any other information about their previous life,” Medina tells Yahoo Lifestyle.
Signs that a child has formed an other-worldly friendship, according to Medina include if he or she is asking uncharacteristically-mature questions or holds specific knowledge about the home, such as about past occupants, that is otherwise impossible to obtain.
Medina acknowledges that witnessing a one-sided interaction can be frightening for parents, but that it’s important to be inquisitive, not judgmental, especially if the child is not being misled or physically harmed by the interaction. Because just as children can detect negative energy from a person, he says, they can sense whether a spirit is unkind.
“Children with this type of gift can really change the way the river flows in a family,” Medina tells Yahoo Lifestyle.
You hear unidentifiable noises
Ghosts that bang and clang about are usually known as poltergeists. These loud spirits who tap, knock or slam doors get their name from Germany — according to Merriam-Webster, the verb poltern is “to knock” and “geist” is German for spirit. The name translates to “a noisy usually mischievous ghost held to be responsible for unexplained noises.”
Heinzen says ghosts of this nature usually have one goal: communication. “Usually the spirits want to pass on a specific message to the occupant of the home, maybe something they never had a chance to say in real life,” he tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “Once they get whatever is it off their chest, the activity usually stops.”
There’s an unexplainable bad odor
According to Heinzen, “dark entities” — those that are negative or demonic in nature — emit a foul odor similar to rotting eggs or meat. Ruling out stinky trash or medical conditions such as phantosmia which causes a person to smell burning or chemical scents, a decaying scent could signify an evil presence.
To cast out dark energy, Heinzen calls for backup. “The minute we think we’re dealing with a demon (an entity that has never walked the earth), I enlist a demonologist,” he tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “That scares me.”
He witnessed one haunting that required an exorcism, a religious ceremony to cast out alleged demons. “I was asked to provide security during an exorcism for a couple that played with an Ouija board,” he recalls. “It wasn’t like you see in movies — no one was crawling the walls — it was very quiet but the spirit manifested itself in physical ways: The woman became bloated and stiff as a board, and her feet turned purple. I had an overwhelming sense that I was going to die.”
While the exorcism was successful, says Heinzen, “I never want to do that again.”
A previous death occurred in the home
A home with history does not necessarily mean it’s haunted, but if the aforementioned activity is occurring, the spirit of a previous occupant could be responsible. According to Heinzen, souls can linger in a home due to confusion, whether or not a person died of natural causes or by murder. If the death occurred abruptly or a person didn’t get to say goodbye to loved ones, the soul may be confused or not ready to move on.
Houses that are considered haunted, or were the scene of a suicide or a famous or brutal crime constitute “stigmatic” properties. “In real estate terms, a stigma refers to an intangible attribute of a property that may prompt a psychological or emotional response on the part of a potential buyer,” according to the real estate website Zillow.
However, unless there are clear signs, you may not realize you’re living in a haunted home. Depending on the state, sellers aren’t necessarily obligated to share whether someone died in a house unless directly asked.
In 1991, the Appellate Division of the State Supreme Court in Manhattan allowed a prospective homebuyer to recoup a $650,000 down payment after learning that the Nyack, N.Y. home he wanted to purchase was allegedly teeming with ghosts, according to the New York Times. The case dubbed “the Ghostbusters ruling” read in part, “….a very practical problem arises with respect to the discovery of a paranormal phenomenon: “Who you gonna’ call?” as a title song to the movie “Ghostbusters” asks…”