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Trending News – Khloé Kardashian Got Shamed For Taking Her Nanny Out With Her, and My Eyes Are Lost in the Back of My Head
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An Instagram account that wasn’t even her own shared two paparazzi pictures of Khloé out with True and her nanny. In the comments, one user wrote: “Khloé acts like she can’t go anywhere without her nanny. Nanny is in every pic and place she goes. She can mother on her own, we all do it! What a joke. She literally can’t go to the market, a party, or lunch without her nanny. WTF.”
Well, this keyboard warrior probably thought she was safe commenting on an unofficial account without tagging the 34-year-old mom, but oh, oh no — this is a Kardashian you’re messing with.
Khloé found the comment and swiftly replied. “I can go anywhere and everywhere with whom I choose to,” she wrote. “I choose to treat everybody like family that is in my house. I choose to invite whoever wants to come to fun outings. We all love and enjoy the farmers’ market and it’s so fun to go places and create memories together. I hope you have a happy and blessed day. I also hope that you are very kind to the ones that are kind to you. The ones that are not, probably need your kindness even more.”
Sure, most moms hire a nanny so that they can leave the house for a few hours, get work done, or even take a shower and a nap. You are paying them to be there, after all, so why spend all of that time doubling up the child care? But many moms who hire a nanny, especially one that’ll be around daily, also want to ensure they’re hiring someone who will love and care for their child just as they do. Having a nanny that loves your child and would move mountains for them isn’t a necessity, but it’s a serious plus. So if your nanny loves being around your child, and you love being around your child, you end up wanting to share both special and mundane moments with your nanny. At least, that’s how it was for me.
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Parenting Crap – Parents are hosting “Yes” days. Would you?
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Parents are hosting “Yes” days for their kids. Would you do a “Yes” day? “Yes” days are days when you have to say yes to all the things your kid asks you to do. There are a few rules. It can’t be dangerous, or something you financially can’t afford, but overall, you have to say yes.
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How often should you do a “yes” day?
Will doing a “Yes” day ruin my children?
Love and Marriage – 7 Tips to Save Your Relationship When You Don’t Agree on Parenting
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Differences in parenting is an area where many couples struggle, and it can lead to divorce or living with resentment when it goes unresolved. Do you think your partner is too strict, not engaged enough, or inconsistent when it comes to parenting? Do you fight about it? Consider these tips to keep your relationship strong through parenting differences.
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Talk It Out
Ideally, you and your partner discussed your parenting strategies long before you decided to have children together. But even if you didn’t, it’s not too late to start.
Share your parenting philosophies with each other. Talk about how you were parented and what you would do the same as, or differently than, your own parents. Ask your partner about topics like what reasonable discipline looks like, what sounds like an appropriate childhood bedtime, and whether children should get an allowance.
Chances are, you aren’t going to agree on everything. That means you’ll have to make some compromises.
Create Rules Together
You’re setting yourself up for failure if your house rules are something like, “Be good, or you’ll be in trouble.” This vague approach to discipline lends itself to miscommunication, misunderstandings and ultimately, fighting.
You and your partner should agree on specific rules and write them down. These may include statements such as what time each child goes to bed, that kids are required to ask before playing outside and that homework must be completed before electronics are used.
Show the rules to your kids and ask if they have any questions. Be open to their ideas and suggestions, and make changes if they are appropriate. It is easier to enforce rules that everyone can agree on.
Determine Consequences Together
You and your partner will need to determine what the consequences are of breaking the rules in your home. If your parenting styles are vastly different, this may be an area of conflict. Some parents are relaxed about discipline, preferring to simply talk to children about mistakes. Other parents are extremely strict and believe that handing out specific punishments is the way to keep a home on track.
If your parenting styles are in complete conflict, you’ll need to make some compromises. One parent may need to agree that there will be consequences for bad behavior while the other parent may need to accept that consequences don’t have to be harsh to be effective. Make a written list of consequences for breaking specific rules.
Back Each Other Up
After the plan is in place, it is critical that you stick to it and be consistent. You are setting the whole family up for disaster if one of you is following the plan, but the other is allowing children to break the rules or is not enforcing them by insisting on compliance with the consequences.
It is tempting to let unhappy kids out of a punishment or to relax the rules, but the message you’re sending the kids is that you and your partner can be divided and conquered.
Don’t Disagree in Front of the Kids
Unless your partner is truly abusive with your children, do not interfere when you disagree with a parenting decision. Your kids will quickly take note of where the disharmony lies, and they will use this to their advantage. Don’t let this happen.
Let your kids know that you and your partner are on the same page and that you each support the actions of the other. Bring up the incident later when you and your partner are alone. If you just can’t wait, at least ask to speak in private.
Be Flexible
How you parent the kids should be flexible enough to be changed as they grow older. You and your partner should be re-assessing the parenting structure as needed. Also, take into consideration the child’s personality. Some children need more supervision, some less. Some are more manipulative, and others have more of a pleasing nature. Your style should be a good “fit” for the child’s needs. A one size fits all approach may not work.
Give Second Chances
Every parent makes mistakes. You and your partner are both going to make a bad decision or lose your cool with the children now and then.
When your partner screws up, don’t start hurling accusations. Wait until the children are not present, and talk calmly about the situation. Then extend forgiveness. This is your partner, not your enemy. Supporting each other means a lot.
You don’t have to let differences in parenting styles ruin your relationship. Simply listening to each other, compromising on what is important and agreeing you both are on the same team can go a long way toward raising a family in harmony. Parents sometimes forget that they are at the top of the hierarchy in the family structure. This essentially means that you two are the bosses and what you say goes. But, like in a government or business, if the leaders don’t agree, chaos ensues. Not to mention that it sets a poor example for the kids. They are watching what you do and can be influenced by it in ways that can have an impact on the rest of their lives.
Don’t be afraid to get outside professional help or read some of the excellent parenting books available if you have difficulty resolving these fights.
Loving the podcast! You two are awesome together! ????
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And I would so get a nanny if I could afford one!! Love ya girls!
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