If You Send Your Kid To School Sick, Yes I’m Probably Judging You


We’ve all sent our kids to school “sick” once or twice. We know that kids can have runny noses pretty much 24/7 in the winter, and we all know that a little sniffle doesn’t always warrant a day off from school (and it certainly doesn’t warrant a day off from work)

ALL moms know that kids can fake it. Hard. Especially when they just want to sit on their tablets like zombies and talk you into drinking soda because they don’t feel good.

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So, let’s calm down a minute, OK?

That’s not what I mean. Of course we can’t take off work, or rearrange our entire lives every time a kid is sick. If you can do that, then you must be a unicorn mom. But, what we can do is respect other families by not sending our kids to school when they are REALLY sick.

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So, here are some fast and furious “Mom Rules” I think we should all abide by not just because they are common sense, but because we also don’t want to be jerks when our kids are sick.

Because, in my opinion, you’re a jerk if you send your kid to school sick, and my kid gets sick.

Which probably means everyone in my entire household is getting sick, too.

If your kid was running a fever within the past 24 hours, don’t send them to school

Even if they are fever-ing while playing fortnite and eating cheese puffs and asking for playdates. Just don’t do it. A fever (in case you don’t know) is actually 100.4. My husband (who works in the medical field reminds me of this often).

However, if my kid is “off” and not wanting to eat or play with friends, and that fever is 99.9, I’m going to keep him home probably anyway. Ya know. To not be a jerk.

If your kid is vomiting or has the poops

For the love, please don’t send your kid to school if he threw up last night and casually mention it to me at school drop off like it’s no big deal. Because, believe me – I will be imagining your child licking my child’s pencils in class today and I will for sure worry about it for at least a week.

If he threw up and you think it was because he just drank too much Gatorade, great. Keep him home anyway. Kids are tricky little creatures, and mine have been known to puke a day, and then take a day off and puke again on the third day.

Wait at LEAST (and I can’t stress at least) 24 hours since the last time they puked before sending them back. And, if he has the poops, I’m sorry, but no one wants to use the same toilet as him at school. Have you seen little kids’ wiping abilities? They’re probably about as good as a monkey wiping his butt.

We have a case of Norovirus that has broken out in a school district in my state. 600 kids called out in ONE DAY from one school district. Stomach bugs spread like wildfire, and no one wants to have the puke bug in their house. I repeat – NO ONE.

If your kid has been on antibiotics for less than 24 hours

Please don’t call twelve hours good, or start them on antibiotics and send them on their way that same morning. Ask your doctor, he’ll for sure tell you the same thing. Those rules are there for a reason. To protect the rest of us. So, don’t be a jerk and send your kids to school until that medicine has had some time to do some work.

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If your kid has something CRAZY contagious

Hand, foot, and mouth is so contagious a toddler that has it can look in your direction and your kid will probably get it. OK – not really, but don’t send your kid to school sick with one of those things that spreads like wildfire. Yes, all kids have to go through these types of illnesses at some point, but we don’t want to if we can help it.

Especially the flu. Not the stomach flu, but Influenza. It’s not just a serious illness, it can literally kill children. So, keep your germs away from the rest of us.

Maybe you think the illness is no big deal

Maybe you are one of those super laid back parents that kind of shrug their shoulders when a child projectile vomits on you. Good for you. Really. But, that doesn’t mean the rest of us are so chill.

Even simple childhood illnesses like Strep can cause complications in some kids. Some children are immunocompromised. So something like Norovirus can put them in the hospital for dehydration. And, we all know that the influenza is deadly. And, not just to babies. Children die every year from the flu.

And, before you argue that you work, and can’t just stay home with your sick kids, don’t be so selfish. We don’t expect you to take a day off for the sniffles. But, figure out a way to make it happen when they are legitimately ill.

Not just for the sake of everyone else, but for your own kid too that probably needs a freaking rest.

I’m pretty laid back about the way other people parent. I try to always give the benefit of the doubt when people make different choices than I do, but sending your kids to school when they have one of the issues I mentioned above going on is just a jerk move.

And, yes, if you casually mention your kid puked all over his bed last night, and he’s right there in line waiting to head into the classroom with my kid?

I’m sorry, but I’m probably judging you.

See what our own Meredith Masony has to say about sending your kids to school sick: 

Keep Your Sick Kids Home!

I'm sure I am going to ruffle some feathers, but I don't care. Please keep your sick kids at home. Can I get an AMEN???

Posted by That's Inappropriate on Monday, September 10, 2018


  1. As someone who works in a school, everything you said is in the schools handbook in black and white. And we appreciate those that do keep there kids home. Because we as employees can get sick from them also.

  2. Conjunctivitis is another. We had 13 kids in one class that kept spreading back and forth because the school says as long as they have one does if the drops they can come back. I had my Dr send in a letter stating Conjunctivitis is contagious until the eyes stop draining. Tats at least 2-3 days.

  3. Please can all school districts end their 100% attendance awards too?! Seriously!
    My kids got sick from that ? award winning child! I know some legitimately earn that award and are not ever sick! (My oldest child was like that!). But there are plenty of sick kids doing it. ???????

  4. As a parent with a child that has a rare disease. Something as simple as a head cold can put her in the hospital. Kids are always in her personal space.

  5. I’m a teacher, I had a sick kid cough IN MY MOUTH while I was talking to her …. guess how I spent a good part of my holidays? It aggravates me that, even knowing their kid had fever, she was sent to school anyway! Several of my students were lethargic and coughing and sniffling in the days before the holidays. They try to get through their day because they have been told to suck it up and go to school. It is sad to watch and you can be sure that the germs are shared and spread. While I can understand that parents are reluctant to take time off to care for their kids when they are sick, it is cruel to be sending them to school miserable and suffering ? Often they will claim they don’t want their child to miss school BUT they will gladly book a week long family vacation during evaluation weeks and say how important it is to get away as a family!!! Blows my mind!

  6. Then when my kids throws up on campus and calls me the office personnel shouldn’t give me dirty looks telling me finals are important ya know.


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