The Important Lesson To Remember When We Want What Someone Else Has


I spent months and months and months planning, and listening, and browsing Amazon for the perfect Christmas presents for each one of my kids. And then I spent even more time price-checking everything at Target and Toys R Us and Academy (the price-checking is actually a gift for my husband).

I started probing for sales on very specific superhero costumes bright and early the morning after Halloween. I bought Nerf Guns well before the other massess of gift-givers could get their hands on them. I made sure each gift was absolutely, positively, perfectly-suited for the individual it was intended.

Iron man hands for my middle. Carhart camo coveralls for my oldest. Green tablet for One. Stormtrooper pajamas for another. (Pacifiers for my baby girl because she’s one year old, and besides eating and throwing toilet paper on the ground, that’s the thing she loves most.)

I planned out everything for Christmas Day: Gifts. Wrapping paper. Snacks. Stockings. Pajamas. Pictures. It’s the only time of the year I really plan anything at all, so for Christmas, I go ALL OUT.

I went to the grocery store. I made everyone’s favorite snacks. I imagined my kids’ excitement on Christmas morning. I imagined them storming into our still-dark bedroom and jumping up and down on our beds at 6:30 am chanting “Santa! Santa! Santa!” I pictured their unbridled joy after the wrapping paper (which I also planned out to match each of their personalities) had been ripped off and tossed aside of their hand-selected, well thought-out, perfect-in-every-way present.

I planned it all. But what I didn’t plan was my boys getting in a yelling match over their silly, little Star Wars backpack clips.

I’ll give you the abridged version: My oldest son wanted the younger son’s stormtrooper. He didn’t want to trade. Punches were thrown. Words were said. Timeouts were given. Poor Chewbacca. Nobody wanted Chewbacca.

My oldest son just could not stop his 5-year-old self from coveting what was given to his little brother. He didn’t want what he’d been given, even though I knew that it was perfectly suited for his personality. I knew that it was good for him. I had planned that crossbow-bearing Chewbacca especially for him.

But that didn’t matter. He didn’t want it. He would hardly even take the time to look at it. He wanted the gift that had been planned for and presented to somebody else.

But I get it. I totally get it. I’ve been there and I’ve done that. Over and over and over again.

I’ve looked at the gifts God has given me, and I’ve pouted about them. I’ve tossed them to the side and I’ve stomped my feet and shouted “but I don’t want this gift!!! I don’t like it! I want what she has!”

I’ve there with my arms folded, jaws clenched, tears streaming down my face, and absolutely refused to use, to appreciate, to even unwrap what God gave me.

Instead, I’ve sat in the church pews, and wished I could sing like the praise team. I’ve scrolled through Instagram, and wished I was more photogenic like the makeup artists. I’ve walked through the mall, and wished I had more money like the people carrying around ten thousand shopping bags. I’ve read other blogs, and wished I could translate thoughts into words more poetically like those writers.

I’ve wished I was quieter. I’ve wished I was sweeter. I’ve wished I talked less. I’ve wished I was funnier. I’ve wished I was better at math and science. I’ve wished I was cleaner and more organized and more type “A.” I’ve looked at my friends, at celebrities (Carrie Underwood and her workout videos specifically), even at complete strangers, and wished and prayed that God had given me their gifts.

But he didn’t.

He gave me the gifts He gave me. He gave me the gifts He hand-selected just for me. He knew me before I was born. He planned for me to have these gifts and to enjoy these gifts and to use these gifts. He gave me these gifts with a very specific purpose in mind. He wrapped them up nice and neat and hand-wrote a gift tag with just my name on it, and I’ve treated them like garbage. I’ve treated them like they were burdens instead of blessings, like trash instead of talents.

Wouldn’t this world be better if we stopped wishing we had someone else’s gift? If we stopped constantly looking over our shoulder as our friends unwrapped the box with their name on it? If we stopped tip-toeing over to our neighbor’s to swipe the Amazon package right off of their front porch?

Let’s take our gift. Let’s hold it close. Let’s unwrap its vast potential. Let’s get down on our hands and knees and thank God every day for the gifts he’s given specifically to us. Not our friends, not the “it” celebrity, not Carrie Underwood. Us.


This post originally appeared at In & Out Beauty by Amy Weatherly.

I love red lipstick, graphic tees, and Diet Dr. Pepper a little more than I probably should. Most days you can find me lounging in sweatpants, running kids from one place to the other like a crazy person. My family is my home and my passion is helping women find courage, confidence, and the deep-rooted knowledge that their life has a deep and significant purpose. Make sure to come follow me on Facebook.





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