Four Real, But Terrible Truths About Raising Boys


Before I had kids, I never wanted boys. Quite honestly when I saw the little southern bits on the ultrasound, I was surprised; I indignantly thought, “Why would I have a boy? I am so clearly a girl mom!”


My second feeling was fear. I didn’t have brothers, only a sister. Growing up, my dad and most of the other boys that I knew were, in a couple words, cold and distant.

I just didn’t want a boy. God understood, and I trusted that he would oblige my silent request. 

Fast forward eight years and three little boys in a row later, and I’ve learned some terrible truths about these little creatures.

There are some honest and real truths about raising boys. They come with unique challenges, but being a boy mom is the best. #boymom #raisingboys #filterfreeparents

So here are Four Terrible Truths About Boys

My sons LITERALLY never flush their toilet.

I swear the smell that slithers out of their bathroom and hits me at the top of the stairs can knock me over. The first time I smelled it, I instinctively thought that something had died. Something got into our house, or into our pipes, and died in my sons’ bathroom. Or maybe the plumber needs to be called? Oh Dear Lord in heaven, what is that awful smell!?

Thankfully I discovered that an innocent animal still had its life, and no money was needed for the plumber. The bad news was that the problem was much worse… it was a fundamental one…neither of my older sons KNOW HOW TO FLUSH A TOILET.

I literally once discovered a scene so horrific that my life, and then theirs, flashed before my eyes. Upon examination, it appears that a five day old poo had been busy spawning lots of little E. Coli friends at his toilet swimming party. How could anyone live with such a smell from their attached bathroom!?

So I thought, I’d ask. The question somehow seemed absurd to my sons who furrowed their eyebrows incredulously at me and stated, “I don’t smell anything.”

They constant flinging of perfectly clean clothes out of the drawer and onto the floor and leaving crumbs everywhere. 

The literal trash and food items in various stages of decay found under beds, nightstands, mattresses, pillows, behind closet doors and stuffed between books in bookshelves.

The organizing and reorganizing of dresser drawers – you know, the ones with socks, and underwear, and pants and shirts, and some candy wrappers, and a random medal from a first grade soccer match all mixed together because why not put all of your unrelated belongings into one or two drawers out of the 6 that you have available to you?

Makes sense. 

More trouble arises when they are walking around with food in their hands. Hmm… what to do when you are done eating but have leftovers? Drop it like it’s hot! Drop it on the floor right where you are, yeah that’s a good idea, that’ll work. My boys have done this so often in fact that I have gone overboard on the term, “does that look like the trashcan?”

The same system applies for clothing that is no longer wanted on one’s body. Drop it where you are and leave the scene. In fact, any item that is being carried from point A to point B but becomes obsolete somewhere in the middle will likely end up on the floor, in the middle of the room.

There are some honest and real truths about raising boys. They come with unique challenges, but being a boy mom is the best. #boymom #raisingboys #filterfreeparents

They don’t wash their hands.

Has any mom ever witnessed their son actually washing his hands, let alone washing his hands well? Didn’t think so.

The most I’ve seen done with my boys’ hands is making the rotation between going into the pants, and out to grab the Wii remote, then into the pants again, then out to eat. Pants to food, toilet to food, finger in nose to swiping furiously on iPad (which explains the sticky residue). No. Washing. Involved.

But somewhere between the smells and filth come the sweetest times. 

But somewhere between the foul smells and the filthy fingers and faces, after the constant days of reminding them to wash their hands after they pet the turtle (and for the love, don’t KISS the turtle), and reminding them to refrain from eating their toenails at the dinner table; during the bedtime stories and prayers and back rubbings that occur near the aforementioned God-awful smelling bathroom, come the sweetest times.

I am talking about when your son asks you if Mount Everest is made out of a whole lot of hot dogs and if he can go there one day and eat some.

Or when he asks to be told the story about how he was born and then asks if he pooped on the doctor when he came out naked while laughing ferociously.

Then there are the times when they confide in you their hopes, and dreams, and worries in their little lives, and the times when one of them tells you that he wants to be in the Army when he grows up and you have to keep your welling tears hidden from sight – tears of surprise, pride, and fear.

These are the really terrible truths about having boys.

These are the parts that make your heart beat out of your chest and nearly explode. The funny, frustrating, and grubby parts are really just a bonus.

But honestly the most terrible and wonderful truth of it all is that one day, these sweet, grubby faced little boys will grow up to be men. And the laughs may not come so easily, and their hearts may not be so light.

Their childhood will eventually be gone, but that won’t stop them from taking your heart with them into whatever challenges and wonders lie ahead for them, and all you can do is pray that the times you gave them and lessons you taught them as children were enough.

This post originally appeared on This Simple Life Blog


  1. My son flushes the toilet. He also washes his hands. He does not think poop is funny. All boys are different. No better, no worse, just different. Not all girls like pink either.

  2. I’m sorry, but I have a son who, literally, does none of the terrible things listed. I don’t think these things are inherently “male”, I think it has to do more with parenting. My son doesn’t pee in the seat, but if he does, he knows to clean it up. He also knows to flush. He NEVER has dropped clothes, clean or dirty, on the floor. He eats exclusively in the kitchen, dining room, or the family room attached to the kitchen, and I have yet to find crumbs or “leftovers” where they don’t belong. He uses a plate and if he has a beverage, he uses **gasp** a coaster. I hate these articles that put boys down as if it was a rule that these things were true. I think they are kore self-fulfilling prophesies from moms who want something hysterical to say about their children. Oh, and ps. embarrassing your son by telling his secrets to the moms of his friends…that should be on a list of awful things moms do.


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