I’ve fallen in love with being a single mom.. though I really struggle making room for anyone who wants to take care of me or love me.
But I’m not apologizing for being that way.
When I was newly single I remember it being really hard.
I hated the thought of not having “the picture perfect family” my parents have been married for years and all their friends were happily married as well and had a bunch of kids to show for it so it was a constant reminder of what I was missing.
But I adapted to my new “norm” and I survived. I don’t remember the exact moment when everything just seemed okay or easy but I remember no longer feeling bad for myself because I was single with a baby.
I got so used to doing everything by myself.
I was used to comforting myself during moments of sadness, used to being the only one I could count on and sure enough (being a single mom.)
What I feared the most became what I loved the most, because I didn’t need anyone but myself to rely on.
When it comes to relationships or dating I’m not ashamed to say that I’ve ghosted men, left them on “read”, canceled dates and backed out of becoming (official) because it just didn’t feel right. I’ve done it all, but I’m not apologizing for it.
A relationship might look more stable but I don’t need to be in a relationship to be more happy or feel more loved because my heart is full enough with what I have.
It’s also important to know what you want and what you don’t… and settling is something I’ll never do again.
I’m content with it just being my son and I and the life we live and I take pride in doing everything by myself that it’s hard to imagine another person being a part of that.. and I’m not sorry for that.
Don’t feel like you need to be in a relationship to feel better about yourself, a relationship can be a plus but only when it adds to what you already have going for yourself.
Fellow single moms.. take a step back and be proud of yourself for doing it all on your own, appreciate the struggle… seriously.
it makes you a hell of a lot stronger and it will bring the right person to you in the future.
The single mom who’s not apologizing.
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Single Mom Truth: I’ve fallen in love with being a single mom.. though I really struggle making room for anyone who…
Posted by Annie Hartigan on Tuesday, February 11, 2020
Negative people will always be there Annie. The most powerful thing that you can do is just keep doing you and not let what they say effect they way that you live your life. Only you can control what you get from life. No one controls your narrative. No one else can make those choices for you and the people that really know who you are will always be there to support you. You are an amazing mother, a strong survivor and you have so much going for you.
You’re an amazing mom Annie! He is luck to have you! Keep being you and keep on loving your life ??
Loveee this ??
I’ve Watched you grow and become this beautiful woman & you continue to amaze me with your confidence !
Don’t stop fighting for what you believe in ??
You give these women strength when they feel weak , or when they feel like they have to stay .
That’s what make you so fucking amazing ?
Coming from an abusive relationship, I wish I had the strength to leave sooner !
Love you baby girl ??
Don’t ever settle for less than you deserve ??
And what truths would that be ? She’s an amazingly brave woman to come forward with her story . No one is perfect and if she chooses to edit pics then so be it like she’s the only one to edit pics …. jeez
And as for wishing her good luck ….
She’s doing amazing things in her career and giving her son an amazing life !
Annie you are definitely a inspiration to me and many more! You should be feeling so proud of what you have accomplished! I love reading your posts!
Wow! To the commenters above, why all the hate??? I’ve read this article Annie wrote, not knowing anything about her. This article has spread throughout social media because what she has written resonates with single moms and holds true for single moms. Who cares if she photoshops her pictures or filters out and smooths her skin? Isn’t that why Snapchat is popular or even relevant? So why all the hate?
I 100% feel this article. Single mom of two here for the past 7 years. Have had relationships but it’s so much work and gets in the way.