TikTok Mom Losing Her Sh*t From Her “Average Monday, Panic Attack” Is All of Us


Maranda Arbogast may not have realized it at the moment she hit publish on her now-viral TikTok video, but her “average Monday, manic panic attack” has brought that elusive village we all hear about together. 


It all started with a simple question she had for other moms, “how do you not lose your shit!?” she asked while crying and wringing her hands.

And honestly, it’s a really good question. Is there such a thing as not losing your shit as a parent? More than 20,000 people chimed in with some answers, and my goodness, the advice in the comments section of this video is pure gold, but we’ll get to that in a minute.

The video shows Maranda sitting criss-cross on a bed. She’s got her yoga pants and messy bun, and SO MUCH FRUSTRATION pent up in her that it’s spilling out in tears and gasps for someone to help her. 

“I just have a question for all the stay-at-home moms out there,” her video starts. “How do you get shit done on a day-to-day basis and not lose your shit?”

I wanted to hug this woman and tell her that no one has their shit together.

We’re all losing our shit. All. Of. Us. 

“I have so much shit to do, and I can’t get it done because my kids won’t stop. I clean a room; they fuck it up within ten minutes. I pack a box; they dump the box,” she says.

This situation she describes sets my ass on fire at least once a day too.

Kids are wild AF, and the one thing they hate more than anything is a clean and orderly house. If they sense organization, their little minds implode, so they lose their shit and ruin your work. I swear this is how it works. 

But she had more to say and…oh, my heart. 

“How do I not have days like this!? I have no fucking friends; I have nobody else to come help me or talk to me besides my mom. And that’s just pathetic.

I just don’t want to lose my shit anymore; I just want to breathe. How? How do you do it? Should I start day drinking?”

If you haven’t seen her meltdown, you can watch it here. Trust me when I tell you, you will want to reach through the screen and hug this woman and tell her she’s doing it exactly right. And that’s where her lengthy comments section comes in.


I just want to know how #parentingadvice #panicattack #arbodillo

? original sound – Maranda Arbogast

More than 95K people reacted to her video, leaving more than 20K comments. 

One lady called Alli wrote, “Hey mama, sometimes if you get to the end of the day and the only thing you’ve done was keep you and the kids alive, YOU DID ENOUGH.” Her comment had 6400 likes because she is absolutely right. 

Others like, macayla.tonnings6791 offered some practical advice that helps them through the day. This person offered, “I don’t know your little ones’ ages, but I have started a 5-minute fast pick up twice a day. It helps the mess…”

Another user had equally good advice, to focus on one task at a time as opposed to all tasks at once.

And to consider getting rid of some of the things causing clutter to begin with; namely, kids’ stuff. 

But since this is TikTok, not all the commentators were kind.

Because, of course {eyeroll}. Like this super pleasant person, who took the opportunity to shame the creator about having kids to begin with.

Or this comment that…well…we can’t quite make heads or tails of. Why is he yelling? Who is this cleaning fairy? What 14-month-old baby cleans a room? WTF!? So many questions…

But one of our favorite comments was this one by a user called Kathi-Callahan Barte who gave us all permission to let shit go. She wrote,

“Please be easier on yourself. When your kids are young, the house WILL BE MESSY. It won’t be like this forever.” 

No matter who you are, when you are surrounded by kids and messes all day, even the toughest mamas among us will lose our ever loving shit.

It’s just how it goes.

But thankfully, we have platforms like TikTok where we can be honest and unfiltered about how hard parenting is and THAT is where we find our village. 



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