EVERY PARENT right now is struggling with the same decision: do we send our children back to school in the next few weeks, or do we homeschool them due to the coronavirus pandemic?
This is one of the many times during parenthood where whatever you decide, you will not be right, and you will also not be wrong.
This is a decision that you unfortunately have to make, and no matter what you choose, it’s going to be hard.
Do you trust that your child will learn anything or apply themselves whatsoever doing a virtual school while you’re at work all day, or quit your job to stay home to homeschool your young child?
Or do you send them back in, with total confusion about the potential “risks”, and knowing that their school year won’t be normal AT ALL?
Everyone will be masked, there will be disinfectant coating everything they touch all day, and there will be social distancing in the lunch room and during play time.
How do you know what to do?
This is such a seemingly impossible decision to make because I don’t think anyone feels 100% solid in either of the choices.
And I don’t have any good advice for you, but I do have some encouragement to share. I want to remind you first of all, that you are NOT ALONE.
Every parent is going through the same confusion and stress right now. Reach out to family and friends for support, and to have someone to talk it out with.
Equally as important, whatever you choose is not the wrong OR right decision.
You just have to weigh it all out, and decide what feels the MOST right for you and your child(ren).
To the mom whose child is supposed to be going into kindergarten, their FIRST year of school, and being faced with all of the scary unknowns, expecting your kiddo to wear a mask and stay away from their friends all day, and not be able to seek comfort from their teacher on the first hard, uncomfortable days of school, I feel for you.
To the mom whose child has special needs and REQUIRES the structure and guidance of their teachers but you’re just not comfortable sending them back, I feel for you.
To the mom whose child is going into their senior year and going to be missing out on the big events that are so important at that age, like school dances, and who is trying to navigate their last year of high school and all of the stresses that it holds alone, now with a pandemic added on top, I feel for you.
To the mom who is a teacher and isn’t ready or comfortable to go back and handle all of the new unknowns, on top of reminding students to wear their masks and stay away from each other, and hope that they don’t get sick and take it home to their family, I feel for you.
No mater where you stand with all of the opinions and confusion about everything regarding the coronavirus, we are all being affected in one way or another, and from one mom to another, I see you, and I’m right there with you.
None of this has been easy. This isn’t something that you can find in the index of the parenting books you have on your bookshelf, because it isn’t normal.
It’s okay to feel frustrated, angry, overwhelmed, confused, and sad about all that is going on. Just remember that you are doing the best you can do, and that’s all you can do.
So sit down with a pen and paper and make a pros and cons list regarding the school decision, and then go with your gut.
Everything is going to work itself out and be okay eventually, we just have to overcome these really hard and uncertain times to get back to the better times.
Hang in there mamas, you are doing your best, and that is more than enough.
This post originally appeared on the blog, Mighty Mamahood.